Discipline Gives Freedom

A boy was flying a kite with his father and asked him what kept the kite up. Dad replied, "The string." The boy said, "Dad, it is the string that is holding the kite down." The father asked his son to watch as he broke the string.

Guess what happened to the kite? It came down. Isn't that true in life? Sometimes the

Very things that we think are holding us down are the things that are helping us fly. That is what discipline is all about.

So Winning in life comes when we do not succumb to what we want to do, but do what ought to be done. That requires discipline.

Harry S. Truman said "In reading the lives of great men, I found that the first victory they won was over themselves Self-discipline with all of them came first." 

How To Eliminate Self Sabotage

“If you are ignorant both of your enemy and yourself, you are certain to be in peril.”  By Sun Tzu

There are many ways to avoid success in life, but the most effective and proven ways are procrastination and self sabotage. People who procrastinate sabotage themselves They put obstacles in their own path, set up their own stumbling blocks They actually choose paths that hurt their performance.

Why would people do that to themselves?

Well the truth is Procrastinators are made not born no one was ever born to be a procrastinator, people choose self sabotage over self-regulation, It's easy to forget just how powerful our subconscious mind can be. We are often completely unaware of how our actions (or inactions) are affecting our lives. We may complain that things never work out for us, we have bad luck, or we just don't have what it takes to be successful.

For most people procrastination is a lifestyle stemming from habits that they have adopted over time you have to remember that our thinking pattern becomes habitual. We form habits and habits form character. Before you realize that you have got the habit, the habit has got you.

Habits are a lot stronger than logic and reasoning. Habits start by being too weak to be felt and end up becoming too strong to get out of,

So what is self sabotage? And why would some one want to sabotage themselves?

Self sabotage is a combination of our Thoughts, Feelings and Actions. Actions that are working against self-interest these thought patterns are creating barricades in our lives that is literally preventing our success at all levels even thought we want to have success.

You can look at it like this. We want something consciously but we sabotage our self unconsciously, it should be clear by now that there is a conflict going on between our conscious wants and our unconscious desires.

Some of the reasons why people might sabotage themselves are that subconsciously they create a safety mechanism to protect them from disappointment so out of fear of disappointment they actually create the disappointment.

So what are some of the consequences of self sabotage?

• They prevent us from reaching our Goals.
• They prevent us from taking action.
• They prevent us from making important decisions
• They hold us back in life.

 What are some of the reasons why people sabotage themselves?

• some people sabotage themselves as a way of comfort or a coping mechanism.
• Lack of self-esteem.
• Lack of self-worth.
• Lack of self belief.
• Lack of self confidence.
• An inability to manage our emotional state.
•  An inability to manage our reaction to circumstances, people and events.

                                                       Self sabotage is shooting your self in the foot.

Other well noted ways of self sabotage are.

• Fear of failure.
• Fear of risk.
• Fear of making mistakes
• Fear of what people might think.
• Fear of succeeding. ( yes some people do have a fear of becoming successful)
• Limiting beliefs such as (it wont work, I can't do this, I am too busy for that right now, I am just not ready, I am just not good enough
•  One of the worst is comparing ourselves with other people.

When these thoughts and actions go unmanaged or not corrected they we will continue to self sabotage which will work against our self interest.  

So how do we fix self sabotage and eliminate it from our lives? Well the first thing we have to do is identify our self sabotaging behaviors we can do so by examining ourselves carefully or write a list of all our thoughts and motives that we believe maybe holding us back, we should also be careful to identify the triggers that set off these self sabotaging behaviors. 

Some of the triggers could be a place, an event, an object, people or a specific time.

 After we have single out the culprit that as been killing our dreams, stealing our prosperity and success then we can move in to repair or correction mode.

 Our next step is to identify some healthy replacements that will help us achieve our self interest, as we have already establish, these self sabotaging behaviors are habits that are deeply-seated into our subconscious so it will take a full commitment on our part to eliminate and replace them .

so the best way to fix the problem is to ask your self  why do you need to change this habit and if you find a good enough reason why you will have the motivation that you need to propel you forward to make the change ( i.e. my current habit is holding me back from starting my own business.

Start practicing your new healthy behavior until an habit is formed to replace the old negative habit, some people recommend that you should practice for 21 days but I believe that you should give your self the least 30 day and be very consistent, because some of the self defeating thoughts that you are now trying to correct took many years to form some were even developed from childhood so I really don't think 21 days is sufficient.

This is not a comprehensive lesson on how to eliminate procrastination and self sabotage, but the steps that have been laid out here withing are sufficient enough to get you well on you way to success providing that you follow the steps carefully and that you are committed to change and self-regulation.


final tips be aware, be optimistic, learn from your mistakes by asking self improving questions in contrast to your mistakes, identify self defeating thoughts root them out and replace them the instant you discover them and be committed and consistent your success, happiness and entire life depend on it.     

Take charge of your own education

The other day one of my readers asked me a question about education and because of my passion for education I believe its only right that I share the question and the answer that I gave. I hope every one else find it Helpful.

Even though the reader who ask the question is a college student the answer that I gave can be applicable in any situation at any stage in your life.

The Question was:  


"What are some ways someone can take charge of their own education?"

My Answer is:


That is a very good question and the fact that you ask that question shows one very clear and important fact and that is, you are well aware of the fact that you can take control of your education and your life.

I have always believed that education is free, but a university or college certification is very expensive.

So the answer to you question is very simple and I am going to put it in list form so it can be easily understood and replicated.

Step 1. you have to first decide what is it that you want, just imagine if a plane left JFK airport with no clear destination in mind flying around and don't know where to go I guess I don't have to tell you what would happen to it. So know what you want and decide upon it.

Step 2. Find out where you are going to acquire you education from, this could be a university, college or even you local neighborhood library. Like I said before education is free.

Step 3. Set a goal. Write down your goals, as I mentioned in a metaphor before a plane can not take off if the pilot don't have a clear destination confirmed.

 So make sure you set real achievable goals, write them down in detail and list out the expected benefits that you wish to achieve at the end, but still allow your self some amount flexibility.

Step 4. Put a time value on your goals. This means that you're going to put a starting time and an ending time for each goal you set.

Step 5. Ask your self this question. WHY? Yes you read correctly, why is the single most important question you can ask your self, why do you need to educate your self? Why do you need to improve your life? If you have a strong enough WHY then the HOW will come to you easy and you will eventually get the WHAT it takes to get it all done and enjoy a successful happy and prosperous life.

 So look around you on your life, family, job and then search inside and ask WHY, when you find the why it will be the fuel for your jet pack that will propel you into the Stratosphere of success.

Step 6. Master your time or your time will become your master, you have to incorporate some time management in your life style time management is very important it determine how fast you excel and how far you will go so make sure this is on your priorities list.

So these are some of the ways that I believe someone can take charge of their own education and lives please feel free to ask if you have any further questions.

So To overview:

No 1. Decide what you want.

No 2. Know where to get what you want.

No 3. Set a goal.

No 4. Put a time value on your goals

No 5. Ask your self WHY.

No 6. Time management

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Be Still

Life is filled with rewards and Great gifts, but sadly most of us has never had the chance to be a proud recipient of these great gifts.

We didn't really miss out on them because they weren't given to us; we actually miss them because we didn't receive them. I know your going to say hold on there mister. What do you mean I didn't receive life's greatest rewards? 

Well the truth is we often don't.

With our life always in over drive and often times extremely chaotic and then the party or club hoping when we are not sitting in front of the TV spacing out, yes all of these activities rob us of the great rewards we could have receive and enjoy if we had just take the time to be Still.

When I had learned to use the power of how to be still I was awe struck and wonder to my self about all the things that I have missed out on because I had never took the time to be still. 

Now don't get too mystical on me and start thinking that I am talking about some new magical art or an old ancient mystical powers because that's not what I am talking about.

To Be Still. Just simply mean to take a chill pill, to relax your self it is often refer to as meditation, it as been revealed by many great inventor, scientist, musicians and even Albert Einstein himself that  some of the greatest discoveries came out of quiet moment of relaxation and reflection in fact Einstein's theory of relativity came to him at time when he was just chilling.

I have also discover that some of my greatest ideas come to me while I am in chill mode just relaxing and meditating I have discovered ideas for great events, innovative ways to make more money, inventions and just ways to make life easier for my self and other people.

Ask yourself why haven't you taken the time out of that busy life of your and allow life to reward you, it really don't take that much, all you have to do is just chill and the more often you do it the more rewarding it becomes.

Here is my be still how to guide.

• Get a note pad and a pen or a pencil depending on which one you like to use.

• Pick a time it could be 5 to 25 minutes morning, noon or evening when you want to chill in a quite secluded area.

 Its not hard to meditate you don't have to be an ancient sage to meditate all it require is that you take that designated time to reward your self by just freeing your mind of all your worldly concerns and allow the reservoir of great ideas and solutions that resides in you to flow and while they gush out of that storage tank of infinite knowledge and wisdom write them down because they will slip away as fast as they come. 

Try it out. Take a chill pill and allow life to reward you all you have to do is just BE STILL.


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New Year’s Revolution

Have you ever noticed that every year at new years eve we declare our new year's resolution, but as soon as the new year begins we often start for two weeks or maybe even a month at best before we end up quitting and then.
That which we have resolute so vehemently about just months before we end up putting it in the pile of unfinished business that we have been stocking up on over the years.

I have been giving this a lot of thought and a little research and what I have uncovered is that a lot of these declaration that people have made for their lives as the components to make them really successful and in most case extremely wealthy. So I beg to ask the question. Why they would abandon such great power and the ability to make themselves prosperous and successful?

Well a few answers came up, but two stood out the most to me and those are.

• They just don't know. Most people don't have a clue as to the chain reaction of successes that would have followed if they had only stuck with their declarations like a postage stamp until it reaches its destination.

• They lack the dedication, relentlessness, determination and most of all the Motivation that is needed to achieve greatness.

So this is my step by step guide on how to make these new year's declarations and keep them.

Step 1. Turn your declarations into real achievable goals, write them down in detail and list out the expected benefits that you wish to receive.

Step 2.  Put a time value on your goals. This means that you're going to put a starting time and a ending time for each goal.
This doesn't mean that at the end of each goal you would have accomplished everything on your list.
 what this actually does is it helps you to gauge and measure your progress so you can know where to focus more attention.


It's best to set long term as well as short term goals, thus maximizing your full potential.

 Step 3.   Stop making resolutions. For the majority, just the word itself carries tremendous psychological disadvantages; they just don't work. According to surveys, only 8 percent of Americans successfully achieve their New Year's resolutions, 92% are not kept.  80 percent of those who make New Year resolutions have failed by Jan. 20th. So what do you do then?

Step 4. Start making New Year's revolutions instead. So what's the difference you might ask? Well the definition for resolution is (a formal expression of opinion or intention, the act of resolving or determining upon an action or course of action) which simply means that you will take forever to get it done and you will be discourage on your way.

Maybe this is why psychologists all over the world say that  New year's resolutions are doomed to failure. 
well noted psychologists have said that setting a resolution is a form of "cultural procrastination” because people fail to set realistic goals and most aren't ready to change their habits.

I am not a psychologists but my research has shown and proven to me that in order to have real change and achieve your utmost you need to have a revolution.
This is why I suggest that you should set a new year's revolution.


The definition for Revolution is (An overthrow or repudiation and the thorough replacement of an established government or political system by the people governed a radical and pervasive change in society and the social structure, especially one made suddenly and often accompanied by intensity).

Every revolution in history was marked by a revolt, a total break away from by open rebellion to cast off allegiance or subjection to those in authority. How this applies to us is that we have to identify our old none supportive ways of thinking and doing things as a government that is keeping us under bondage, stifling our growth and stealing our progress and success.
We have to form a mental rebellion against them and revolt because the truth is they are doing more harm than good.

So the difference with a revolution over a resolution is while a resolution is a stead fast focus on creating change, a revolution on the other hand is a complete dethroning of the old way of doing things a complete reform, new goals, new management system, new governance, new mind set.
This means that you have completely replaced your old paradigm with a new ones so the old routine and frame of mind no longer reign as supreme king in your life which allows you regain the ability to achieve your desired goals.     Let the Revolution begin!! 

If you find this helpful in any way please share it with your family and friends post it on your facebook twitter and let others know you care and want to see them succeed.

I really want to thank every one who read my blog and email me your questions and suggestions I promise I will respond to every single one of them before the year ends so give some time, Thanks! again and keep the emails coming.

Birds Of a Feather Flock Together

While I was growing up I always use to hear my aunt say “show me your company and I will tell you who you are” also translate (bird of a feather flock together). 

This is one statement that rich and successful people take very seriously; they understand that who you associate your self with will determine your direction in life.

If there are people in your life who are abusive, demeaning, angry, hurtful, not supportive, unethical, or crazy, it is time to let them go. You may have your reasons for hanging on to them, but do these reasons really outweigh the negative impact they have on your life and future?

Just check it if the people on the inner circle of your five closest friends are aimless has no goals for there lives don't have a clue if they are coming are going and all they can talk about is where the next party is going to be; then its quite clear that you will be thinking and talking about the same thing.  I am not trying to say it's bad to have fun; as a matter of fact having fun can be therapeutic.

What I am saying is you have to put your priorities in order. If your friends are not cheer leading you on and motivating you to want to succeed and achieve your goals or if they can't offer you qualifying advice to help improve your quality of life then you probably need to rearrange your associations.

 At the very least, find ways to cut back on interactions with these people. Because they are driving you in the middle of nowhere-ville on an empty tank; you can either change your inner circle or your outer circle either way you have to have a support group of friends and family that works as a booster pack propelling you higher and farther head in your life.

Rich and successful people only associate them selves with other rich and successful people not because they believe that they are better than other people, they do so because they understand that if want to go somewhere, its best to find some one who as already been there before so they can guide you.

This kind of association motivates, inspire and direct you forward. You see rich people think differently than poor people about the same things these different ways of looking at the same situation is what allows them to keep achieving more each day.

 OK here are a few examples of the difference in thinking.

• Rich people believe "I create my life." Poor people believe, "Life happens to me."
• Rich people play the money game to win. Poor people play the money game to not lose.
• Rich people focus on opportunities. Poor people focus on obstacles
• Rich people are bigger than their problems. Poor people are smaller than their problems.
• Rich people act in spite of fear. Poor people let fear stop them.
• Rich people constantly learn and grow. Poor people think they already know.

From these examples you can see why it is so important for you to evaluate your friends and the people the you're closely associated with because if they are under achiever, have no goals, has a Poor Mental Attitude and is not driven to achieve success then guess what 9.9 times out of 10 that will be your exact thoughts and beliefs also.

So give your self a moment and take this challenge today, take a few minutes to evaluate your inner circle and your outer circle of friends and ask your self this questions which one of these people pushes me closer to or further away from my goals and expectations for my life? 

And if you work it out and discover who are the pusher and pullers then rearrange your circles and put the pusher on the inner circle and the puller on the outer circle this way you wont lose a friend if that's what you are worried about, but you would gain leverage and if there are no pusher in any of your circles then go find some; just remember the birds that you flock with will determine how far you reach in life.
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As A Man Thinketh

 “For as he thinketh in his heart so is he” Proverbs 23:7.

The proverb, as he thinketh in his heart so is he. At fist glance may seem a bit simplistic to some people but if you really look at it and examine the premise you would realize that it is so profound and so relevant today even though it was written over 300 thousand years ago.

Every aspect of a persons life is shaped and governed by their thoughts even down to the minute details of every day choices, I know you’re going to say Collin I already know that; so what’s new? Well the truth is we all know this is a fact, but what we some times fail recognize is, yes our thoughts do control and govern our lives, so the real question is, who or what control and govern our thoughts?

Sounds like a crazy question? Well let examine it for a bit and see, so people act and do as there minds tell them but who tell their minds to act and do the things they do?  

I think Therefore I Am:

Answer: our environment we are all conditioned to think and act a certain way and this is what cause the results that we see in our lives, so here is another question for you, who is really in control of your life?

We are led by what we are fed; this simply means that the kind of information that we feed ourselves will eventually manifest it self in an action. No, no, no Collin your wrong I am the one that is in control of my life not any system, circumstance or person; if your in the driver seat of your life and your driving up success boulevard on your way to achievement highway then kudos to you.

But for most of us it would be wise to acknowledge that our actions can be no wiser than our thoughts and our thinking can be no wiser than our understanding. So if we all do agree that our thoughts govern our lives and we also establish that our conditioning and environment control our thoughts this means that in order to really have control of our lives we have to gauge what we put inside our mind in order to achieve any form of success.

Garbage In Garbage Out:

Like the old saying goes garbage in garbage out:  all that we are is the result of what we have thought, our life and achievements and the lack there of. where we live our jobs and every instance in our life is a perfect reflection of our thoughts.

We are not creatures of circumstances as we often think, circumstances are a result of us. Albert Einstein once said “We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them” if our intention is to improve our lives then it is imperative that we improve our thoughts.

We have to constantly feed our mind with the things that support and reinforce what we desire to see manifest in our lives if we desire success then we have to realized that Success is something you attract by becoming an attractive person:  how do you attract success? You attract it by learning more about it.

The more you learn about success is the more attractive you become to it, as he thinketh in his heart so is he literally means that whatever thoughts you allow to consume your mind will also consume your life.

you cant sow peas and expect apples to grow. So ask your self this question, what kind of seeds are you sowing in your mind? We can no longer say no one knows what's going on inside our heart because even though we think in secret it will come to past our environment is but our looking glass.

     

                                                                        The thinker